Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Ask Me!

Over the past few days a few fellow bloggers and I have been having conversations about male and female relationships and the size of their hearts....(Yep, I threw that in just for YOU!)

I am curious what all of you think about what makes the opposite sex attractive to you.

There are many things that I find attractive in the opposite sex.
To list a few:

Personality - he must be able to carry on a conversation (about more than just sports), laugh, be able to see outside of his own small world.

Eyes - I love eyes! I recently did a blog on eyes.

Confidence - Not to be confused with cockiness, I love a man who is confident and willing to be strong.

Romance - I love a man who is able to think of things to make a woman happy...such small insignificant things can please me to no end.

Physique - mmmm,mmmm,mmmm. I love to see sexy backs, shoulders and arms on a man.

Smell - Many woman can be turned on or off by a mans smell....Every single human has their own unique smell....and man there are some men out there that I could just sink my teeth into.

These are just a few small things I find attractive....So tell me what you think.



I have seen a few other blogs where people ask questions or give topics they would like to see written about. I thought that you might have some interesting questions or topics...


So, give it to me....come on ask me anything!

32 comments:

Chucky said...

Have you ever wondered if there was more to life, other than being really, really, ridiculously good looking?

That is what I ask my self every day =)

Bardouble29 said...

Chucky - Well there are only a few lucky ones like you, that can be that damned good looking and get away with it!

Chucky said...

Only that doesn't answer your question.

I am curious what all of you think about what makes the opposite sex attractive to you.

Lets see. It has to be the eyes and the fact that I can make the opposite sex smile.

Oh and I rock. I'm sure that helps =)

Bardouble29 said...

Chucky - I am very much into eyes! And you know that I think you rock too!

Anne said...

Chucky's funny. That's attractive.

I like: honesty (it's super-important), kindness, intelligence, spirituality (but not a religious nut), caring and open-minded in bed and out.

Physical looks are nice but they're sort of an added bonus, not too important. Someone who is physically attractive but has no personality is just eye candy to me. Maybe nice to look at, but I wouldn't waste my time dating them. There are so many types of people, and almost all have something attractive and unique about them, so I can't say I look for any particular physical characteristic.

Now you want me to ask you a question? Hmmmm.... gosh, I don't know. I'll have to get back to you on that.

Anne said...

Oh, and I LOVE creativity - someone who can write, play an instrument, draw, fix things, cook, or whatever.

SJ said...

Let's see - smart but not too smart, funny but not too funny, not too thin not too fat, not too tall not too short, open-minded but not too open-minded, flexible but not too flexible, non-conformist but no too much, strong and healthy but not too strong, libido but not too much ... well see why I am single?

Jokes apart I honestly don't know!

If you give me a question I'll ask you one. Wanna trade?

Enemy of the Republic said...

Comment awaits. I have to work so be patient. I will only say: yes, eyes are very important. Often the rest is primal and mysterious.

RockDog said...

Wow! Cool question! I could go on for days and days telling you what I like about women! But I won't...LOL!

Every woman is an individual rose that is a warming vision to the senses and should be embraced with a gentle touch...

It's all a matter of taking the time to get to know the beauty, both inside and out before determining if this particular flower is right for you.

Or something like that...

Question...what is the biggest turn off for you in a guy?

Mine (in women) is bad teeth. I'm a sucker for a full rack of white teeth...

Have a great week! :)

Bardouble29 said...

Anne - Chucky is a hoot, he is one of my best friends in life...I agree there are just too many qualities I love in a man to list, these were just a few.

SJ - Sure we can trade questions...I will have to come up with something for you.

Enemy- I do agree, most of what I do find attractive in men is very primal, but I was trying to keep the post light.

Rockdog - I knew you could go on and on about women!!!

You asked, "what is the biggest turn off for you in a guy?"

There are a few things that are a big turn off...being very self centered (I have dated a few like that), an extremely foul mouth (there are other words in the enlish language than cuss words), and personal hygiene.

Jay said...

women who are smart, funny, open minded and independent are awesome. No emotional cripples please or really needy types that smother their boyfriends please. And being goofy and able to laugh at yourself is always fun.

Umm ... lets see, a question ... Do you believe in reincarnation and who or what do you believe you were in a former life?

Dan said...

I agree with everything on your list. And I would add intelligence. I couldn't be without a woman who wasn't intelligent.

I hopped over from cynical bastard's blog.

Enemy of the Republic said...

Seriously, it is just there. This is the truth: there are men who are good looking, but are not attractive to me if I am thinking in terms of sexuality. I actually don't get attracted to that many guys--it's weird, and I can be equally dense and oblivious if they are attracted to me; it has gotten me in a few jams. Yeah, I could list attributes, but it is either there or not. And I agree with Dan; he has to be intelligent. If I can't talk to him, then I don't have any interest. And that doesn't mean he has to be educated. Some of the stupidest people I know have degrees galore.

Bardouble29 said...

Jay - I so agree, no emtional baggage please! And I will have to think about the question and give you an answer later.

Dan- Welcome! Intelligence is key.
Thanks for coming over. Jay is one of my favorites!

Enemy - Well said...I hold an ability to have a Meaningful conversation high on my list of must have. I have ended dates that were awkward due to the guy giving one word answers to conversation starters.

SpongyBones said...

Let’s see here;

Spongy’s Qualifications in order as received:

1. Personality – a must! I’ve gone out with women whom seem as if just breathing air in and out is a major accomplishment in life. Can’t hang with that. Give me a woman that smiles and when she walks into the room creates an atmosphere of, “hey I wanna be around that!”
2. Eyes – I’m really not a color of an eye guy, but I have to have a woman who will look me in the eye and tell me to shut the hell up and laugh after she says it. One that doesn’t reveal all but one that has eyes that peer into mine and says, “Hey you, I see you looking at me!”
3. Confidence – Oh hell yes. If they lack in this department they won’t last two milli seconds around me. I’m constantly on over drive and if you are in the back seat then you can’t ride with me! There are no back seat women in my car. I like a woman who knows what she has, both physically and emotionally. One that isn’t afraid to fight for what she believes in and won’t back down.
4. Romance – ah now really … that would be my department.
5. Physique – I bet you thought I was shallow Hal here. Really, honestly no bullshit here, looks aren’t all that.
6. Smell – I can’t answer this you may get your blog flagged if I do!

BTW in case the Professor stops by, could you let her know that my opinion in these departments may seem similar to her knowing another male in my family.

Enemy of the Republic said...

Where Spongy and this other male converge in their taste as known to moi:

1. Looks--said male individual shared his theory.
2. Personality: said male noted energy that female brought into the room, so to speak.
3. Eyes: said male thought that women's interest in male eyes was hysterical, yet he wanted a woman to look him in the eye...always.
4. Smell: He spoke of that. He was aware of the 5 senses.
5. Confidence: This one I must think on--I know he was impressed by what he called "spirit".

Spongy, nice comment, but my words still stand over at my blog. Arthritis indeed!

SpongyBones said...

Words standing. A woman that stands on the words she says ... I find this interesting since you are limited in your Webster version of the dictionary.

Enemy of the Republic said...

Only where the definition of you is concerned.

SpongyBones said...

I don't understand this eye crap either ... that's just too much romance for me!

SJ said...

I got it! I would like you to write about this story http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=10972703
and do you think the law was applied in letter not spirit in this case?

You might want to refer more than just that one link to get all sides - then I may be stating the obvious here.

Kati said...

LOL Interesting topic!

1) a nice tall, strong build & strong hands (built like a line-backer, but not real fat)
2) eyes
3) a strong, confident air, though not pushy, and preferably quietly confident & strong rather than overtly.
4) brains... Maybe not a real avid reader, but somebody who loves to learn & use their head & hold conversations about more than just sports or celebs. And avid reader is a bonus.
5) a good sense of humor, not cutting (or, at least not cutting MOST of the time) or down-putting.
6) a good work ethic.

captain corky said...

I like honest open communicating. I couldn't be with a woman who would expect me to try and figure out what's going on with her all of the time.

dawn said...

Funny because I always tell my husband that woman don't go for looks, they go for personality's. He doesn't believe me being male. Everytime we see a really beautful woman and not great looking man he thinks it's for money. He doesn't understand why I could like Kevin Costner or Andy Garcia. So what male star do you go for

just me said...

Humor, and big shoulders. And body hair. I love body hair. Eyes used to be important, and they still are of course, especially if they just have the regular two, or maybe an eye-patch, now that's hot. And, of course, I do have that special place in my heart for bald men. And its nice if they can talk. And read. And have a basic knowledge of hygiene. But, I'm a good teacher...

Jo said...

I started to leave you my list. Lord, let's just say that you can tell the three of us are related.

Dorky Dad said...

I totally wimped out on my original comment, which was simply going to be "boobs." Then I wimped out. Seriously, I need me some intelligence, a sense of humor (that's kind-of a must ... someone must have an awful weird sense of humor to date me), eyes, smile and, uh ... looks. But I have all that. So I'm good.

Very interesting post!

Dorky Dad said...

For the record, I mean that my WIFE has all that. Not me. I've got the sense of humor down, but that's about it.

The Lone Beader said...

I really love what RockDog said. That was sweet:)

And, there are way too many things that I find attractive in a man to list...

Gardener Greg said...

I like a woman that can carry on a good conversation about almost anything.

I like a woman that pays attention to what I have to say.

Physical size doesn't matter as long as she dresses neatly. I hate a sloppy dresser.

I love long lets nice eyes and a sexy butt.

She must have a good sense of humor too.

Everything else is extra.

LADY LUXIE said...

A man who takes responsibility for his words and actions is always sexy....

A man who provides well for his family is sexy...

A man who tells me he would take and give a bullet for me is sexy...

A man who tells me I will be a daisy smiling with other daisies in the next life because this world is too ugly for someone like me..is sexy..( yeehah! he!he!)

A man who tells his kids " if you find anyone as lovely and kind as your mom then marry her today..." is sexy...

A man who says " I don't expect you to be perfect..I don't expect you not to make mistakes..but I expect you to say you love me...."..is sexy...

And there's only one guy in the world who can be this sexy for me...Doesn't matter if he gets cranky sometimes..or smells of sweat..or snores sometimes..or insists on making love with the lights on when I like the dark..

Gosh'..I guess an attractive guy for me would have to be nothing else but my take on sexy...:>

whimsicalnbrainpan said...

Looks don't matter much but I do like nice eyes, strong shoulders, butts, and thighs (no idea why).

The big things are intelligence, kindness, and a sense of humor.

skinnylittleblonde said...

I know I'm late ...just got back from the beach, but couldn't resist commenting! BTW, thought of you while I was down there...everyone had tattoo's where I was! ;)

I loved your list & all of the comments.
I find a good sense of humor & honesty to be must have's...