Monday, April 09, 2007

In Memory


Last night I returned from a wonderful vacation. I was met with the news that a friend of mine had passed away.


Baron -


I want to thank you for your friendship and your wise words when I was down. You told me once in an email that you learned so much from me, but it was I who learned from you. You were such a wonderful friend. You were so passionate about your life and your children. You wrote to me about your family and how much they meant to you. You told me of your brothers and sisters. You were the first to want to look inside yourself to change and grow, you then challenged me to do the same. You were always quick with a joke or a funny saying. We shared much about our love of the same music. You stood for what you believed in and the ones you loved. I am proud to have been your friend and you are so very missed.


To everyone you had a kind word and you shared so much of yourself with all of us. I never had the opportunity to meet you in person, but after all our talks and emails, you had become such a dear friend to me. There are many, many lives that you touched.


While on vacation I learned that the Mayan cutlure does not believe in goodbye, but rather that they will meet up again in the future, whenever that may be. Their word for meeting again in the future is Sama. And to my dear friend Baron I say Sama to you.

27 comments:

Anne said...

It's amazing how much love he had in him, to care about and inspire so many people. He was a really good man - one of the best.

Blublood said...

I am sorry for the loss of your friend. I am just sure that he knows of your love and appreciation for him and that is something that can never die...

Later...

Blu~

Bardouble29 said...

Anne - He was one of the best!

Blu - Thanks, he knew he was loved.

susan said...

I'm so sorry to hear that you had to say Sama to your friend. Hugs to you.

Em said...

Welcome back, Barb. And yes, I was very saddened to learn over the weekend of Baron's passing. I only knew him through the words on his blog, but it was always so nice to read his thoughts. He seemed to have a great spirit and real sense of self-evaluation and determination. Your comments about him are very touching.

Wizened Wizard said...

What? Is this true? I am stunned and so sorry to hear this news. He was a very sweet man, always helpful and with kind words, and I was touched by the way he was becoming reacquainted/connected with his mother. The music he shared on his site was something I always enjoyed.

I will miss him.

Bardouble29 said...

Wizened - On March 28th he went to sleep complaining of a headache and suffered a brain embolism. He will be greatly missed by all of us.

Chalice said...

Wow.. I cannot believe I am seeing this. This saddens me tremendously..

Baron you will be missed more than words can say...

The Lone Beader said...

I am very sorry to hear this news=:(

I miss Baron, too:(

Jay said...

Welcome home.

I'm very sorry to hear of your friends passing. That's just so sad.

Dorky Dad said...

Welcome back. We missed you. Sorry that you had to come back to find that out. It was pretty sudden.

whimsicalnbrainpan said...

Welcome home!

I hope your trip was fun and I'm sorry that your friend is gone (for now). I did not know him but everything I've heard about him is wonderful.

captain corky said...

That's really sad...

Welcome back Barb. I hope you had a great trip.

Gardener Greg said...

Wow that is so sad, I am so sorry for your loss. I recently learned some things about the Mayan's. They were much smarter than we gave them credit for. Hopefully they will be correct in this respect. Welcome back though Barb.

Greg

skinnylittleblonde said...

Welcome back BarDouble...you were missed!

I beleive that the Mayans are right and so are you. Baron definitely had an impact, a positive one, everywhere he went. I am so sorry that you returned home to this sudden and unexpected news.

P&L Bardouble

RockDog said...

Welcome Home!

Sorry to hear of your friends passing. :(

Kati said...

What a sweet memorial to somebody who by all appearances was a very good guy. May his rest from this life be peaceful, and may our paths all cross again.

And Welcome Back Barb! I hope that you had a relaxing vacation!

dawn said...

I am sorry for your loss you sound like a very compassionate person and I just realized our blogs have the same name.

Wizened Wizard said...

Wondering what could have happened to Baron, I went to his blog and re-read some of his posts. I didn't know him well and wondered if perhaps he knew he was dying and was using blogging to help sort out his life and its meaning. I knew him to be kind and helpful; his blog shows him to be sensitive and thoughtful.

Lance ("Baron") wrote about his "house of four rooms: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual." He said, "There is an Indian belief that...unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not complete." Lance was working his way through his rooms.

His final post was about entering the fourth room - the spiritual one - and he said, "When I look into this room I am not uncomfortable at all."

Apparently "Baron" never consciously knew Death's nearness, and yet he had gotten his house in order.

I wonder how many of us could exit this life unexpectedly and leave it as gracefully as Lance did.

May peace be his.

singleton said...

Sama....
Until then, feel the love....
May the circle be unbroken.
For all.....

Enemy of the Republic said...

Thank you for writing me. It's just so sad. There are no words.

SpongyBones said...

Thank you for these kind words about my brother.

LADY LUXIE said...

He doesn't know me..I read his comments with relish..and read him a few times in his blog..I get shy at times and don't comment..I wish I had..I wish I told him how I felt when he talked about his kids...I knew then and there he was a kind soul...I wrote about him too...

Welcome back..

Wizened Wizard said...

Hi Barb,

In the shock and sadness, I never welcomed you home. So... Welcome back!!

Please tell us about your vacation. I hope it was as good as you anticipated and that you returned refreshed.

Wiz

Jenna said...

Oh you poor dear- I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are well...

Fi said...

I'm sorry you came back to such bad news. But hope the holiday was all you wanted it to be.

tundraboy said...

Any more details available?...I could not locate a published/on-line obit in KCMo? This is just too sad. :(