Saturday, January 13, 2007

Excuses, Excuses

I think today I will kill, maim or hurt someone, just because someone did ________ (fill in the blank) to me.

I am so tired of hearing this crap. Whenever media/news asks someone why they chose to do the deed they did. The guilty person always comes back with some excuse of his parents or someone doing some horrible thing to them.

In March I will be 31. In my life I have endured abuse, homelessness, poverty, ridicule, hatred, and the list goes on... I say this not as an "Oh poor me" but as an example. I do not blame others, I do not chose to hurt people (notice I say chose, because I believe it is a choice). I live my life to the fullest.

I rarely watch talk shows, part of that reason is that every person who parades across the stage wants to blame and point fingers, at everyone but themselves. But I have a perfect example of placing blame on someone else for something and using it as an excuse....

Several years ago, my roommate hollers at me to come see whats on TV. On TV was a talk show (no I don't remember which one) and on the screen was a young man. If I remember correctly he was about 23 yrs old. He was being charged with murder and when asked why? Why he did the horrible things, he calmly responded that he was murdering young boys who had never been circumcised, because his parents had circumcised him as a child. He continued on saying that he had psychological damage due to it and he should have been given a choice in the matter. I was absolutely flabbergasted!!!!! I could not believe what this young man was saying. He was killing people because of a decision his parents made when he was a week old!!!! Give me a bloody break!!!!!

Again and again I have heard stories similar to this one. I enjoy psychology and have read stories about people and the reactions they have to life after enduring abuse etc. To me there is a difference of people who have endured real pain and perceived pain.

16 comments:

Em said...

Because he was circumsized? Gee, that makes how many million men who are on the edge and could start killing at any moment! Yeah, right. Lame excuse. I'm with you...shows like Jerry Springer seem to make that kind of excuse more acceptable.

bardouble29 said...

Em- yep, because he was circumsized. I couldn't believe what I had heard. Crazy stuff!!!

The Lone Beader said...

There are some sick people out there.
And, BTW, thanks for stoppin by my blog! Cheers from Boston=:)

Dorky Dad said...

Some people have experienced a lot of pain. In fact, I think it's a lesson that, frequently, when you cause young people pain, you also hurt others down the line, because often those people grow up to inflict pain on others. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

Jay said...

It never ceases to amaze me the ecxuses people will come up with.

Yasamin said...

funny.. doesnt he know thats usually a preference with the ladies? what a nimrod. let us all point and laugh at the nimrod. then let his ass fry.

sorry i have no pity for people like that.

im also kinda psycho. maybe i shouldn't be here. with long enough exposure to my insanity... you become like me... :D

Halo7528 said...

hey that was when we were roomies huh! I used to watch alot of those things on maternity leave :)

bardouble29 said...

dorky dad- I truly agree that there are people who have experienced great pain, and my blog is not about those people. I am talking more about people who just use it as an excuse for bad and ill behavior. I too have been through hell and chose not to let it rule my actions.

captain corky said...

The kid had to be damaged goods.
To do drugs or steal and blame society or your parents is one thing, but to mass murder people is whole different ball of wax. I'd have to hear the guy before I could completely pass judgement.

Thanks for the link! I'm going to add you too.

whimsicalnbrainpan said...

I couldn't agree more.

I have known people who have grown up in the worst circumstances imaginable but turned out to be fine upstanding citizens. People who behave that way do so because they choose to.

Jenna said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog - I'm glad you enjoyed reading it- its been a great release to me lately as you can imagine..

A Slice of Life said...

I don't know if we are hearing about these lame excuses more because of better communication, or more wackos or because we, as a society have started buying into it in a strange way. The poor dear, she had no choice...

I agree, no matter what we have been through, we make our own choices.

RockDog said...

There's nothing better than to watch two trailer queens bust each other up over a dude with three teeth! That's just good TV! ;)

Kati said...

What is it with society (as a whole) refusing to take responsibilty?!?! I also refuse to watch talk shows because of all the BS excuses these bone-heads give for their bad behavior. Besides, with a SIL who'd fit right in with the Jerry Springer crowd, I don't need to watch the show for a weekly dose of that trash. ;)

But, it all comes back to personal responsibility. Too many people want to blame their problems, their choices, on other people: Their parents, their siblings, their school, their God (or Satan), their community..... Wow.... And DH is still stumped why I refuse to let DD blow off her responsibilities & blame people. She gets in MORE trouble with me, when she blames somebody else.

Glad to see other people discusted by all the excuse making.

Thanks for coming by my blog & the comments!!! DD loved hearing everybody's congrats on the tied game.

Baron Ectar said...

Bardouble -
This is one of the very reasons I do not watch TV or read the papers. I am in my 40s and I still get my news sometimes from family members talking about it a day or two later. I cant handle all the meaness in the world - breaks my heart and I just cant wrap my head around it.

Chalice said...

Fuck I agree with you completely. I didn't have a terrific life. I endured much in my 36 years but never once did I blame anyone for anything. Unfortunately, shit happens. You have to learn to deal with it and move on no matter how trivial or hurtful it is.

Great Post!!!